There's probably one or two of these in your poetry community.

To elaborate on the post title: In your poetry community, there's probably a man/woman who has worked at least a decade sizing up which poets are vital to know, who has learned how to write great grant proposals, who has learned how to speak poetry jargon like "journal-entry poems", who tirelessly networks, who is in an MFA program at a local university (teaching and/or running a reading series there), who has had one-time detractors now clamoring for his/her favor and support, etc. etc. etc. Not to forget mentioning his/her poetry tends to be evaluated chiefly in terms of his/her current prestige. Guessing you know someone like that and are careful not to say anything negative about him/her lest you harm your literary poetry career.