Recently, a young man was booked to feature at a poetry venue in the West Valley. He forgot about it, didn't show up the night of his feature and the host became upset--to the point where the poet went on the host's fan-club listserve to ask a Prominent Poet to help mediate the dispute.
Over a year ago, an older man was booked as part of an Eco-Poetry festival held at an Eco-Fest in Woodley Park. He forgot about it, (due to fatigue from his day job) was a no-show and the host went ballistic.
Yes, it's not professional to forget about a featured poetry appearance at a venue--a prize that a lot of poets covet. And it's true that poetry is another sector of Show Business where people feel burned over booking no-shows.
But millions of dollars aren't at stake here.
The myth that poetry communities invest in: We are forgiving, tolerant people who don't approve of anger or vengeance and love to welcome those who appreciate our art.
The reality: Anger, jealousy, vengeance and long-term blacklisting happen quite often among poets who have egos (some call this "sensitivity") out-of-proportion to the actual size of their audiences and e-mail lists/listserve membership numbers.
It would be great if the term "look past this" could be more often in use re the Los Angeles/Orange County poetry communities. And local poets willing to behave like the progressive humanitarians they pretend to be.
All it takes is forgiveness of others and yourself. It's easy when you try.